The following message is based on Titus 2:1-15. It was delivered on February 3, 2013
Etiquette is important. “How to’s” are necessary. I remember eating dinner with a friend from England. My father in-law reminded me to eat slowly, enjoy the experience etc. If I failed to follow his instructions, I would look like a fool.
When I gave the prayer at the PA House of Representatives, I was briefed on how to enter the chamber and what I was to do and not do. They told me how to walk, when to approach the podium, when to sit, everything from top to bottom. One wrong move and I would be toast!
When you go to receive an MRI, they give you instructions about what to expect. How you’ll be placed in a tube, how there will be loud noise, when to hold your breath, etc.
In a courtroom, you may be told what will take place by your lawyer. All of these are important because etiquette is essential to being your best. Then there are “how to’s” for the Christian life. Being aware of our behavior, knowing my role in relationship to others. Last week we looked at one of the few household texts that teach how family members ought to treat one another. Today, we study Titus 2 which is a community text, addressing the church as a family of families. Titus’ job description in found in 1:5: “The reason I left you in Crete was that you might straighten out what was left unfinished and appoint elders in every town, as I directed you.” Later in Titus 2:1-15, Paul addresses the different groups within a church community. This is a very basic text. It tells us something of how God has constructed community life
All of this instruction has a serious backdrop that we can easily overlook as it applies to the health of our church. Jeff Reed states: “Paul’s theme through this dynamic letter to Titus is clearly a profile for a Christian life style. By contrast, his primary concern was the ungodly life style of false teachers and, consequently, the way they were influencing then new Christians in Crete. Too often today we embrace the gospel and yet fail to pay attention to His instructions concerning how we are to live as a community of believers.” 
MENTORS ARE IMPORTANT IN THE SHAPING OF OUR FAITH.
Notice verse two: “Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance. 3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good.” All of these qualities we look for in leaders. And this was before any of the popular books or DVD’s on leadership were ever produced. For both the older men and women, these are qualities that we look up to, those that we want in our mothers and fathers, grandmothers and grandfathers. They are values that come from those that get high acclaim; those that command respect.
For a moment, I would like for you to think back of who has influenced you in the church. Who have you looked up to? I have several. In my last church, are a couple named Tom and Annette Reed. Tom was an elder of mine. Soft spoken. I never saw Tom angry. When he served on the city council of our town, he was ridiculed for making decisions that were unpopular, but ethically right on. They even slashed his tires. But he never retaliated. He always took the high moral road. Tom led our men’s prayer meeting with a devotional. His wife Annette was a prayer warrior and led the Beth Moore Bible studies in our community. They were my confidants and are still good friends today. Although I was their pastor, in many ways, they pastored me. They loved Linda and me like we were their own kids. People like that are the salt of the earth.
Who was it for you? Is there someone now operating as a mentor? Do you take advantage of the opportunities to connect with them? A lot of progress can be made over the lunch counter. Ask questions. Life experience coupled with the knowledge of God’s word is invaluable. Are we listening? Wisdom beckons everyone who will listen, as an experienced master would guide a green novice. Proverbs 3:1: “My son, do not forget my law, But let your heart keep my commands; 2 for length of days and long life and peace they will add to you.” Would be a mentor to someone in the church? Would you take the time to invest your life in someone else? This can be done one-on-one, either formally or informally. I challenge you older, more seasoned Christians to pray and ask God who He might bring your way to mentor. Next Sunday, you’re going to witness our young people participate in Youth Sunday. Encourage them; but also be mindful that they need your guidance. Secondly…
LEARNING AND DISCIPLESHIP IS A LIFE-LONG PROCESS, WHERE ONE REALIZES THEIR ROLE AS RELATED TO OTHERS.
Verse four instructs older women to “…train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. 6 Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.” Note that this section is not a criticism of women who work outside the home. If you were to read Proverbs 31, you’ll see a woman who is very industrious. I realize that in this culture that there are situations which force women to work outside the home. But it also is important to state that women are the heart of the home. A wife who is keenly aware of the needs of her home is worth her weight in gold! She provides comfort and sets the tone. Our home would be lost without Linda. She recently went away overnight and my kids were waiting for her at the door upon her return!
Verse six tells us that younger men are to be self-controlled. The Greek is sophroneo which literally means: “to be of sound mind, to be temperate. It has in view that of sound judgment. The New American Standard translates it as sensible. Notice that this is the trait that shows up either explicitly or implicitly in all four groups. In the Greek culture of widespread immorality and abuses of relationships woven into their religious experience, it was necessary that Christians give a different impression. This applies to one’s appetite, emotional or physical. It is keeping yourself in check according to God’s word. It is practicing self-restraint. It is knowing your weaknesses and not giving yourself over to accesses that are neither healthy nor right. On this weekend, as we think of the Super Bowl and the Wing Bowl and any other bowl. Christians are to be temperate.
Another trait that shows up is focus. Knowing what you’re job is. Keenly aware of responsibilities; being resourceful. Aware of what God has given you and applying yourself to the needs around you. Our culture seems to communicate an attitude towards finding yourself, being on a journey, but no one knows what their supposed to be looking for when trying to find oneself and the journey never has a destination. We must understand that it is not all about me; the world does not revolve around me.
A recent study revealed that young people in our culture struggle with direction, yet they also feel entitled and put up a front like they do not need help. Psychologist Jean Twenge and her colleagues compiled the data and found that over the last four decades there’s been a dramatic rise in the number of students who describe themselves as being ‘above average’ in the areas of academic ability, drive to achieve, mathematical ability, and self-confidence. But in appraising the traits that are considered less individualistic – co-operativeness, understanding others, and spirituality – the numbers either stayed at slightly decreased over the same period.
Researchers also found a disconnect between the student’s opinions of themselves and actual ability. While students are much more likely to call themselves gifted in writing abilities, objective test scores actually show that their writing abilities are far less than those of their 1960s counterparts.
Also on the decline is the amount of time spent studying, with little more than a third of students saying they study for six or more hours a week compared to almost half of all students claiming the same in the late 1980s.
We must not forget that we are connected and related. We need each other. Martin Luther King Jr. said: “We have learned to fly the air like birds and swim the sea like fish, but we have not learned the simple art of living together as brothers.”
Effectiveness of our church’s witness depends on us living properly towards each other and towards outsiders. Gene Getz states: “The way we live in community, as a local church, makes a difference in our impact for the gospel of Jesus Christ. This is also true for the way we live within our own homes. As homes and communities disintegrate in our Western culture, we can have an especially powerful witness before the watching world.” Lastly, there’s an underlying motivation and dogma underneath this behavior. That teaches us that…
THEOLOGY IS IMPORTANT.
Paul’s instructions to Titus remind us that how one believes ought to affect how one lives. The first century cults had a disruptive nature. They would ruin whole households (cite Paul, Peter). The Church has always believed in a plurality of leadership that consisted of many functioning as under shepherds.
Titus was to be a model of good works. In his teaching, he was to show integrity, dignity and sound speech. This was the picture of the shepherd in the tradition of Jesus. Jesus was the good shepherd who laid down His life for the sheep. If you remember from our Scripture Lesson in John 10:1-16, Jesus is the door. He warns that there will be those that will try to enter by another way and even determine to lead others astray.
Then there is Satan, who seeks to kill and destroy. Jesus brings life, as He said in John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal, and kill, and destroy; I came that they might have life, and might have it abundantly.” And we await His return. He is looking for the faithful.
One of the biggest obstacles to right belief is our own intuition. We make up our own theology as we go, rather than conforming our thoughts to Scripture. Scripture is a revealed book upon which we must center our lives. Its ideas don not originate with man, but with God. At a critical time in the life of the Israelites, after Moses died, Joshua could have said, “This is my game now.” But notice what God said in Joshua 1:7: “Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go. 8 Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.”
All of this is necessary as we wait for Jesus’ return. I could easily preach a sermon on the last four verses of our passage, and someday I will. But for now, I will read them and then tell a story. 11 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all men, 12 instructing us to deny ungodliness and worldly desires and to live sensibly, righteously and godly in the present age, 13 looking for the blessed hope and the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Christ Jesus; 14 who gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds. 15 These things speak and exhort and reprove with all authority.” Our living is in anticipation of something greater that is right around the corner.
Have you ever wondered why folks in a cemetery are buried facing east? It is in anticipation of the second coming of Jesus. As Christians, we anticipate a great day, in which we will come face to face with the Lord of the Universe. It will be a day of freedom that we can in fact enjoy now.
 Reed, 43.
 Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength to Love, 72.
 Jeff Reed, Belonging to a Family of Families, (Des Moines, IA: BILD International, 1997), 41.